Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

I know you have movies playing in your mind of what "marriage" should be about but they are movies..

I know you've tried councelling I don't know if he has, but the "communication" is not there.

Telling him what you did above is a cry for help but he's not listening to you, as is telling him to get home at 1am in the morning but he ensures his phone is off...

You see two people with children living together as a married couple.

He sees, two people with children living together but he's not married.

I think he will continue to rebel a bit because he loves his life and as I said before, he feels he has to be a part of his "team" and go out with them after work, to be "in" they spend a shirt load of hours together daily in the hospitality industry.

There's got to be a compromise because you are in a relationship and it can't be all one way...

So tell him your not quitting but you need to be part of a relationship as well, not just a mother and house sitter.

And, you need to get out more and socialise and leave him home with the kids as well from time to time instead of feeling like all you do is work, clean, cook, tend to the babies, sex, sleep and off it all goes again.

Plan a girls night out and go....

Sometimes we get caught up in expecting, wanting and well expecting and forgetting that our life is mundane and that is really alot of the reason why we have so much expectations from our partners.

CW