Friends are so important when you are going through tough times. Love and heart aches are the worst to get through or deal with if you don't have a great friend around. I have gotten many friends through really bad love times...those same friends turned their backs on me when a personal situation of my now husbands made them judge me and him....it hurts when you can't rely on a friend. You can rely on my support anytime. I stand by a friend through anything, no judgements and I will never tell a friend to give up on someone they love. You have to follow your heart until the road ends OR begins. Ok, back to you...sorry, got a little side tracked. I am sure when the shock starts to wear off, he will want to see your daughter. He has to miss both of you...but like you said, the guilt is a huge thing...plus if there are any threats coming from his wife and daughters. They may tell him that if he sees or speaks to you, they will make his life a living (financially). That happened to my ex-mother-in-law, her now boyfriend had a 6 figure a year job, nice home, new truck, retirement, all the horns and whistles....when he FINALLY left his wife, it took almost 2 years to finalize the divorce...he is dead broke now. SHe did rake him over the coals. Women are not nice at all!