05-16-2007, 01:57 PM
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Let me put it like this; everything you are feeling is REal.
What you are going through, is REAL.
And you are not alone.
In a similar matter I was appearing for the husband.
The girlfriend, whom I knew slightly came to my office.
She couldn't understand why "I" was doing this to her.
She went on about the long relationship she had with
Husband and everything she said sounded so 'true' and
I felt sorry for her, because everything she believed
was not true.
Not what he owned or didn't own, not what he intended
or didn't intend, none of it was real. He had lied to her
and kept lying and lying, so that sitting in my office her
view of him was of a man who didn't exist.
When we went to Court and he didn't even look at her
and spoke in a voice to make it clear to the Court that
she was a fling, her mouth was just open in shock.
When they left court she tried to start a row in
the hallway, and the police gripped her, and I told the
Husband to leave, and I stayed with the Girlfriend to
calm her and make sure she didn't get arrested for
Contempt of Court.
I don't know if she has yet, (over a year) come to
grips with the fact that he never loved her at all.
Further, she is not and was not and will not be his
only adulterous affair. He has had many and will
have more.
The wife no longer cares very much what he does
but he will never leave his wife. I'm always reminded
of that scene in Analyze This where Robert De Niro
says to Billy Crystal; "Ask my wife to do what with
the mouth she uses to kiss my children?"
With this Husband it was very much the same thing.
And if you think he doesn't respect or love his wife,
just talk to her in a loud voice and you'll see how fast
he'll fling you into the street.
In this case, the tragedy is that his best friend is the
godfather of the Girlfriend's child, and she spends her
time ringing him up to ask about Husband. Husband
has so forgotten her because he's deeply involved
with another one.
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