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Originally Posted by WildChild
Doesn't sound good. What does he do for you? Does he have a green card? Does he have a wife and kids in Mexico? A lot of them do you know, that's why they came to work in another country, so they can send money back to support their families( at least that is the case in my state). I don't know why you think being Mexican or any other nationality would ensure romantacism? I think is coming more from you than him?
Your last sentence set off my alarm bells though, you thought he loved spending time with you because he has no family here. This sounds like you may be setting yourself up, like your self esteem is low and you thought someone without connections would be lonely enough to want to be with you, if you did enough for him. This isn't healthy, you are worth more than that. By all means be a good neighbor but give yourself more value than this. He has said it pretty plainly in words and actions.
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/ U know its not that i feel lonely or have a low self esteem, because i have all my friends close to me i mean im going to college i meet new people everyday, im a happy and outgoing person, i have my family, brothers, sisters, parents close to me, i have a great family.... and i have never felt that i have low selfesteem, im not concided, im average! i may not be the most popular girl but i have my friends, and live a great life. i have seen him cry for his family and i cry w him because it hurts to see him down, thats why i try to make him laugh, and thats why i spend my time w him.! And no he does not have any children or is married or left anybody waiting for him in mexico, and i know because i talk to his mother and shes a very straight out person. He does send money to Mexico for his old folks: his parents! And yes i thought Mexican men were romantic!which he is romantic but in his own way, I guess i just wanted himm to be romantic like on TV and shitt, but hey we all have our ways.... and i understand that. hes Honestly a nice guy, thats why i felt in love w him, he dedicates d same love song every time we hear it, but i guess i felt confuse of what he told me, that he does't want for us to get bored of each other, cause we are together everyday, he said that he wants to give me my time and him his time, so that we can miss eachother and want to see us like d begining of our relationship, w d same sparkles.. u know all this is making sence now that im riding to u, than before i felt all confuse. my last sentence , i tried to say that because he has no family here in the US, i didnt want him to feel lonely,sad, and bored here!!!!and he even said it, thats why we see eachother everyday. But yeah i guess i will stop lil by lil feding him and tending him the way i am, i guess i am acting like a wife, but ill act more like a regular girlfriend, maybe that will bring us closer!!!!! If he had his space and i had mine, i guess its better if we only spend time only on weekends, rather than all week....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!well, what u think, u think im doing the right thing? or am i over reacting?