staying busy sounds like a really good idea!!! we get to talk every couple days but for no time at all, cause when he get off work it's 3 am here or the oppisite. we are either coming or going and we dont get to actually talk talk. what is the group on face book? i think that would be a good idea. we are thinking about me going and staying with him for a month or so if we can afford it. that would be a good idea right? but as far as an open relationship goes i could never do that. he is really attractive or atleast he is to me and if we did that a cute little japanese girl will come sweep him off his feet. plus i dont think i could be with another guy. i would think about my bf all the time. also we both really want this to work. we plan on gettting married soon. this just sucks so bad. thanks for the replys though!!! it really helps