first of all, sorry about my english, im from europe, not native english speaker.
okay here is my question - there is this guy i was seeing, like 4 years back, it was more like just hooking up, partying and drinking, but also hanging pretty much together otherwise - lunch, dinners etc. and we were working together, so it was pretty complicated that time because of this,we were not supposed to get involved, we did anyways.
we did sleep together, but ended up in a really bad fight, and that was it.
this seeing each other was going on for a few months. he really hurt me and we were not talking for months after that fight, still working together tho.but after a while things got back to normal, we were IM-ing sometimes, like friends.
then in the past 3 years i had a boyfriend, he had a girlfriend, but a few months back i broke up with my boyfriend and a few weeks after he broke up with his girlfriend too. we started chatting more and more,and he asked if i wanted to get a drink with him (but also asked if i am seeing someone and if things were really over with my ex - they really were/are).
so we met, I went to his place, we were chatting and drinking, was great, like old times, lots of memories came up. but i was not sure (in fact im still not) if he just wants to get laid or something else/more.
he tried to kiss me and get on with it but i didnt let him, just kissing.
he called again, and i met him like 3 - 4 more weekends in the last few weeks - same thing. he was acting nice and looks like he grew a lot, he's changed and same for me.
he remembers everything i told him years ago and also in these few weeks we met, and was like always smiling at me, jealous at other friends i mentioned look good or whatever, whenever i go by cab somewhere, he calls me when im on the way to make sure everythings fine, like the driver is not hitting on me etc.
I swim and he told me we should go swim together sometimes, and to some waterfall too that he likes a lot. he was acting pretty cool. i always sleep there these days but in the guest room, but one time he went to my bed (we were both drunk and wearing clothes) but he jumped to my bed and was hugging me so tight, we were sleeping like that, me on his chest. he didnt even try to kiss me or stuff, (told me to take off my jeans tho to be more comfortable) but we were so sleepy we just fell asleep that way. this was after i rejected sleeping with him.
he still hugs me and kisses me but thats all.. since we first met again after years, i spent almost all weekends of the last month with him, just drinking, chatting, having a good time. weird thing is he never calls on the weekdays, maybe some IM-ing but thats all, or never calls to go out anywhere else.
i know he is super busy tho,at the office until late night; but still i dont know if he is just playing games or whats going on? what do you guys think?
any chance this can have a happy ending?? i really like him (always have)but am afraid of getting hurt, thats why i rejected sleeping with him. i've changed my mind since but apparently he wouldnt try any more.
did he give up and just wants me as a drinking buddy? if he just wanted sex and didnt get it, why he still calls me to see each other?
i know i have a pretty okay body and he likes it, but he could get any girl he wants, he really is hot.
okay so thats it - any ideas what can possibly be going on in his mind??
thanks a lot for any insight!!
