Well you need to lose the poor attitude before you bring anyone into your life. I've dealt repeatedly with men who have this problem They put on a good act for just long enough to draw you in and then- WHAM - you get all the pent up stuff to deal with. It isn't right to do to anyone. You don't want it, don't do to them.
As for the other side of it, what interests you? Find new things to try or learn, get out with freinds, attend lectures, work out, join a hiking group, volunteer with Habitat for Humanity or someplace like that. Just expand your horizons, you'll be happier and then you can meet some men who doing more than prowling looking to get laid.
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We can only learn to love by loving.
Iris Mudoch, British writer
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