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**SinisterUrge** · 08-18-2009, 01:00 PM

Some advice

*If you've never had "the talk" or when you did it didn't cover latex dental dams and IUDs its time to have that talk now. Yes, it will be the most uncomfortable half hour of talking to your child in their life, but she will survive. Sex will be the greatest threat to your child's health (after smoking and drunk driving) they are likely to encounter. Help her protect herself. Take her to the clinic (Planned Parenthood or whatever its called in your area) and get an STI screen (usually just a urine test or cotton swab). Drill into her that she needs to get it done again before and after every partner she has.

*Condoms are only effective against STIs during vaginal/anal penetration. You can still get every STI from oral sex (that includes both fellatio and cunnilingus). They make flavored condoms and dental dams (a square of latex placed over your genitals or anus).

*HERPES is spread via skin-to-skin contact. You do not need to have sex to catch herpes, most people get oral herpes (HSV-1, coldsores) from kissing. But it also transfers on hands and clothing. Get her tested and make sure she knows to get her partners tested before they become intimate.

*Pregnancy: Continual advancement in birth control, along with the "morning after" pill. May have caused unplanned pregnancy to lose much of its 'scare' value, but it is obviously very much an overlying concern.

*So while sex is great fun (and if it isn't you're doing it wrong), You must stress that things can go bad very quickly. It only takes 5 minutes to catch HIV. (And HIV patients can look/feel perfectly healthy for months and not even know they're infected). The bullet-points are; 1. get tested regularly 2. make your partner get tested regularly (infidelity is rife among teens) 3. Take standard pregnancy precautions.

Non-sexual advice:
*The BF is a control freak. Explain your reason to dislike the guy and understand your daughter will need to date the occasional chump before she gets good at "reading" people.

*As long as she lives at your house (if she's 17 now it won't be much longer before she moves out) you are perfectly in the right to enforce a curfew. This includes phone and internet use. There is no valid excuse to be on the phone at 3am or emailing people till dawn. (Unless she works a night shift).

08-18-2009, 01:00 PM	#10
SinisterUrge Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 492	Some advice If you've never had "the talk" or when you did it didn't cover latex dental dams and IUDs its time to have that talk now. Yes, it will be the most uncomfortable half hour of talking to your child in their life, but she will survive. Sex will be the greatest threat to your child's health (after smoking and drunk driving) they are likely to encounter. Help her protect herself. Take her to the clinic (Planned Parenthood or whatever its called in your area) and get an STI screen (usually just a urine test or cotton swab). Drill into her that she needs to get it done again before and after every partner she has. Condoms are only effective against STIs during vaginal/anal penetration. You can still get every STI from oral sex (that includes both fellatio and cunnilingus). They make flavored condoms and dental dams (a square of latex placed over your genitals or anus). HERPES is spread via skin-to-skin contact. You do not need to have sex to catch herpes, most people get oral herpes (HSV-1, coldsores) from kissing. But it also transfers on hands and clothing. Get her tested and make sure she knows to get her partners tested before they become intimate. Pregnancy: Continual advancement in birth control, along with the "morning after" pill. May have caused unplanned pregnancy to lose much of its 'scare' value, but it is obviously very much an overlying concern. So while sex is great fun (and if it isn't you're doing it wrong), You must stress that things can go bad very quickly. It only takes 5 minutes to catch HIV. (And HIV patients can look/feel perfectly healthy for months and not even know they're infected). The bullet-points are; 1. get tested regularly 2. make your partner get tested regularly (infidelity is rife among teens) 3. Take standard pregnancy precautions. Non-sexual advice: The BF is a control freak. Explain your reason to dislike the guy and understand your daughter will need to date the occasional chump before she gets good at "reading" people. *As long as she lives at your house (if she's 17 now it won't be much longer before she moves out) you are perfectly in the right to enforce a curfew. This includes phone and internet use. There is no valid excuse to be on the phone at 3am or emailing people till dawn. (Unless she works a night shift).