I don't know what to do, where to turn. It's clear to me that I need to try to stop seeking my parents approval, but for some reason, I keep getting upset over the fact that they won't accept my marriage.
My husband and I dated for a year and half, then got engaged, and married about 10 months later. We have been together for 4 years, married for 2 of those years now.
My parents haven't spoken to me for almost 3 and a half years.
They refused to acknowledge our engagement and didn't come to my wedding.
I only have one sibling, a sister. She and my mother are best friends, so therefore my sister wouldn't attend the wedding either.
I am from the US and so is my husband, but he has dual citizenship in Canada, so we left the US where my parents are and moved to Canada to start a new life.
I just can't get over the fact that my mother (and father and siter have disowned me), yet I hear thru the grape vine my mother has taken in a poor crack-addict lady and her child.
Never mind the fact that my husband and I are good, clean people, college graduates who have done NOTHING wrong. But for some reason, I'm not good enough to be loved, but derelicts off the street are.
If my mother were an alcoholic or druggie, at least I could reason this out and logically say to myself, "Of course she's disowned me, she's drunk!" or "She's high."
But the fact that my mother SELECTIVELY does this, just breaks my heart.
Any advice on how to get a handle on this emotionally and move on?