Drama, I am so proud of what you said. In life the only thing that truly matters is how you feel and handle things. Nobody can tell you how to think, feel, chage, act, decide on your future, BUT YOU! I think you are doing all you can and you are doing just fine! I am not sugarcoating anything, I do feel for you and your daughter. No matter how he turns out to be, in the long run you will be fine. You are going through each stage the way you need to. I do think Kaylar is desensitized to human emotions. She said in one of her responses she does feel bad, but I don't believe that. She comes across as the doctor with the bad manners. Every response I have read from her is a story about someone she knows and at the end the world is a horrible place and the woman in the story is a laughing stock of the town. All marriages and relationships are treated as a failure and there are no happy endings in her world. I have seen a ton of friends and myself go through really hard times and through it all I helped them keep their heads up and held them when they cried. I never thought the worst for them and I never voiced any doom. Things could look horrible from the outside but to lose faith in love is horrible. God doesn't give up on us when we are doing things he doesn't approve of. He loves us and forgives our sins. You are being judged by a person that has no love for human kind. Bluemoon sounds like a person with a big heart and when she makes it to being a lawyer she will make a darn good one. Being a cold heartless does NOT make a good ANYTHING. I had a friend that was so much like Kaylar and she had no faith in anything....not God, not love. Her relationships aren't great and she hurts a lot of people with her words. She feels self righteous and superior and I would rather live with my life with stars in my eyes and optimistic that good can come from bad and love prevails. That doesn't mean I think this man will come running back with roses and diamonds, it doesn't mean he won't wake up and realize the huge mistake he has made...but you will have love and you will trust again. You have too good of a heart for that not to happen!!!! I am so glad you wrote to us. I am also glad that you filed the paperwork you need and are letting things happen on that part. If you were to make it ugly and start going after "all the assests" it only makes it look like your daughter is a pawn in a game. That is never good for anyone involved. Trust me on that! You have fire in you! Keep it up!