Okay, here are a few responses to the last few posts... Kaylar, first of all I did not deny any of the things you said in your posts...I simply said that not all cases in life are "typical". There are always things that could throw off your "typical" senario. Saying that all affairs are the same and end the same is complete BS. I know that there is prob. kinda a template that things happen in certain ways at times, but not always. I never denied that it could happen or that you were "wrong". That is not what I was trying to say. That would be like saying all pregnancies are the exact same and this is what to expect. WHATEVER!! All women and all pregnancies are different, even diff. pregnancies for the same women can be completely different, I know that for a fact!! By the way....just out of curiosity Kaylar, do you have kids and are/were you ever married? I just get the vibe that you are a divorced woman with no kids and a complete focus on your job. I could be way off, but you don't seem to act like you like people very much. I don't mean to be mean, but maybe you have just done your job too long. I know being a lawyer can make you kind of numb to things after you see enough of it, but I hope that you still have faith in humanity, because not having that or losing faith in love like tinkerbell said is a horrible thing! I know I will make it through this no matter what and I refuse to believe that life is all like this! Yes I was innocent and trusting and didn't want to think anything like this could happen, nobody wants to think that, and certainly wouldn't be in a relationship if they thought it would go like this, would they?? I have done all I can do to protect myself and my daughter and now it is on his shoulders. And, yes, if you would have said I am sorry for you or anything like that it would have helped. It would have made me feel like you weren't so cold and just informative...that is just too harsh for a person that is going through that just can't deal with it, it doesn't do good, it just makes them feel worse about themselves. You don't have to sugercoat things, but making them sound a little more gentle or at least like you might have any sympathy/empathy would have been nice. I know you like things put blunty, that is obvious, but most people, me included are very emotional and if I/we had a dr. that was that brutally honest I would cry and then never see that stupid ing again! Put it like it is, but you don't need to go overboard. Okay, enough of that .... As for you Tinkerbell, thank you again for your help. I also totally agree on not acting like a complete and trying to get revenge by trying to take all of his money. That would serve no purpose. I have done things trough the court and I am hoping for the best. There is nothing I can do if he "sells all of his stuff or transfers it" ect. I guess then he is a complete and I will realize that and my daughter and I deserve better. I want to get what she deserves and that is all. I do want it to hurt their wallet every month because of the way he has acted, but that is just how people feel when they get screwed I guess. Making him and his wife not be able to forget about us would be great, but nothing will make me really feel better, so what is the point. Money isn't gonna buy happiness and neither is being mean. Well, that is about it for now. Just waiting for my DNA results to get back and he is set to go in I think next week so in a few weeks things will get rolling I guess. I know that I can do nothing else but wait...it sucks, but that is life. I will continue with my life and hope for the best while planning on the worst. I really need to keep trying to look up because it is a long way down and I don't wanna go there! Thanks again for your help, I'll keep checking in.