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Originally Posted by Drama28
Okay, here are a few responses to the last few posts... Kaylar, first of all I did not deny any of the things you said in your posts...I simply said that not all cases in life are "typical". There are always things that could throw off your "typical" senario. Saying that all affairs are the same and end the same is complete BS.
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When an affair begins and the Husband makes no effort to obtain
a divorce despite protestations of 'love' for the OW I can pretty
much tell you how it will end.
Basically, if you were living with John but found yourself in love with
Tom, you would sever the relationship with John because you simply
would not wish to waste time when you could be with Tom.
As soon as I heard he was 'going back' to his wife, I knew he had
never left his wife. Hence, you would be the odd man out.
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Originally Posted by Drama28
I know that there is prob. kinda a template that things happen in certain ways at times, but not always. I never denied that it could happen or that you were "wrong". That is not what I was trying to say. That would be like saying all pregnancies are the exact same and this is what to expect. WHATEVER!! All women and all pregnancies are different, even diff. pregnancies for the same women can be completely different, I know that for a fact!! By the way....just out of curiosity Kaylar, do you have kids and are/were you ever married? I just get the vibe that you are a divorced woman with no kids and a complete focus on your job. I could be way off, but you don't seem to act like you like people very much. I don't mean to be mean, but maybe you have just done your job too long. I know being a lawyer can make you kind of numb to things after you see enough of it, but I hope that you still have faith in humanity, because not having that or losing faith in love like tinkerbell said is a horrible thing!
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Actually, I've been in a relationship for 27 years, have three children and
one grandchild. All viable pregnancies are slightly different, however all
carry the child in the same place, over approximately the same time, so
that where length and severity of labour will differ for each, there will be
a labour, it will not be pleasant. You might have serious morning sickness
or mild, but there will be some point where either you throw up, or can't
stomach food you loved, etc.
In short, if a woman says she's pregnant I can give a ballpark 'figure' as
to what she will experience. Pregnancies are not so widely diverse that
there is no comparison or set of parameters.
The same with affairs. The man who leaves his wife and moves in with
the other woman and proceeds to divorce his wife, is one particular scenario
in which it is clear that the marriage is over and that the OW will be the next
Mrs.Husband. The man who goes back and forth has no intention of leaving
his wife. If he did, he would. Slavery is over.
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Originally Posted by Drama28
I know I will make it through this no matter what and I refuse to believe that life is all like this!  Yes I was innocent and trusting and didn't want to think anything like this could happen, nobody wants to think that, and certainly wouldn't be in a relationship if they thought it would go like this, would they?? I have done all I can do to protect myself and my daughter and now it is on his shoulders. And, yes, if you would have said I am sorry for you or anything like that it would have helped. It would have made me feel like you weren't so cold and just informative...that is just too harsh for a person that is going through that just can't deal with it, it doesn't do good, it just makes them feel worse about themselves. You don't have to sugercoat things, but making them sound a little more gentle or at least like you might have any sympathy/empathy would have been nice. I know you like things put blunty, that is obvious, but most people, me included are very emotional and if I/we had a dr. that was that brutally honest I would cry and then never see that stupid ing again! Put it like it is, but you don't need to go overboard. Okay, enough of that .... |
In my jurisdiction, if one does not make it clear to the client the worst
case scenario, if one doesn't put it hard and cold on the line without
leading the client into a false sense of security, one will be disbarred.
It is as simple as that.
You have to hear it straight from someone, and I'm sure your lawyer
must inform you what the possibilities are. Many of them not so wonderful.
One is not saying that you take him for every cent, one is saying that you
want your child to have a life comparable to those of his children of the
marriage.
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Last edited by kaylar; 05-31-2007 at 04:38 PM..
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