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**echoskybound** · 09-07-2009, 09:44 PM

My boyfriend and I had a fantastic time together over the summer. He's 22 and I'm his first girlfriend, this is still all completely new to him, but he's unbelievably wonderful, caring, kind, and more than I ever even expected of anyone. Sometimes days at a time would go by over the summer when we were completely inseperable. He's really a sweetheart, the best I could ask for.

Classes started up again in the other week, and he has an apartment about two blocks away now. But I only see him once every few days, even when we're both not really busy, he just likes being alone now. We spend about one night together a week, no sex or anything. We have minimal contact and he really seems to need his alone time. He's still absolutely wonderful to me in our time together, but it's not very much, and I start feeling lonely.

I know this isn't really a serious issue, I just want this relationship to go as well as possible because I absolutely adore him and want it to be the best thing for both of us. But I feel like our relationship has weakened a little bit from lack of time together and communication, but I'm really afraid of overwhelming him by being too clingy and being around all the time, so I try to give him as much space as possible, but sometimes it feels too drawn out to go days without seeing him while he only lives two blocks away.

Should I approach him and ask him to spend more time with me and strengthing our relationship, or should I let him have as much space as possible? How do you balance work, alone time, and a strong relationship?

09-07-2009, 09:44 PM	#1
echoskybound Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Baltimore Posts: 114	The appropriate amount of time to spend together My boyfriend and I had a fantastic time together over the summer. He's 22 and I'm his first girlfriend, this is still all completely new to him, but he's unbelievably wonderful, caring, kind, and more than I ever even expected of anyone. Sometimes days at a time would go by over the summer when we were completely inseperable. He's really a sweetheart, the best I could ask for. Classes started up again in the other week, and he has an apartment about two blocks away now. But I only see him once every few days, even when we're both not really busy, he just likes being alone now. We spend about one night together a week, no sex or anything. We have minimal contact and he really seems to need his alone time. He's still absolutely wonderful to me in our time together, but it's not very much, and I start feeling lonely. I know this isn't really a serious issue, I just want this relationship to go as well as possible because I absolutely adore him and want it to be the best thing for both of us. But I feel like our relationship has weakened a little bit from lack of time together and communication, but I'm really afraid of overwhelming him by being too clingy and being around all the time, so I try to give him as much space as possible, but sometimes it feels too drawn out to go days without seeing him while he only lives two blocks away. Should I approach him and ask him to spend more time with me and strengthing our relationship, or should I let him have as much space as possible? How do you balance work, alone time, and a strong relationship?