How sad is the day, when you actually have to write a letter in order to get heard?
I do understand that he feels an obligation, they are part of his life and always will be and there is nothing wrong with that.
She probably was a spoilt princess and wanted so much and he gave. And, this may be why he left her.. But, it's difficult for someone to change from what they were and it seems to me that all he sees is a continual commitment, doesn't matter.
If he loves all children, you have no problems if you marry and have a child, he will give to the cows come home and love his child, don't fear that.
I understand this is frustrating and annoying for you but what he is saying is that it doesn't bother him, that it's his money and his time.
What you have to do is not come across as a jealous fiancee.
You have to come across as you love all he does for them and remember why you fell in love with him and make him feel proud of it.
Then slowly, you have to also say things such as "hun, can you do that tomorrow as I have a few plans for us for tonight - smile sweetly ".. and follow through.
Change his patterns to a degree is what i am saying, without him realising.
You aren't going to change the giving. That's in him. You aren't going to change her using. That's in her.
But, you can change some patterns whereby you get your date time, without him running to her, by the simple fact that he could think of nothing more than being with you.
Grissling and being upset all the time, will destroy your relationship and you won't succeed.
Try the above, slowly and over time watch a few changes.
Don't forget that you are a fiancee not a wife and that you two haven't even had the honeymoon stage yet, get my drift?
Make him want to put her off till tomorrow, after all, it's just a few hours away....
Then she will realise your importance in his life as well and hopefully stop being so greedy.
Nothing else you can do I don't think other than pooring your heart out in a letter but I think that's not the case at this stage, use reverse physcology and win your man where you should have him....
Yours.
CW
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Women are Angels
And when someone breaks our wings....
We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick...
We are flexible like that ....
White Witch.
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