You have one thing over me when my husband was doing that stuff: you have been able to inspect the phone. Your husband covers his tracks by deleting everything. For me, I couldn't get my hands on the phone at all, not even when he was sleeping. It was hidden from me.
Either way, I'm gonna say to trust your gut feeling and confront him ASAP about it. If there was nothing there, you would be able to read the messages, and he'd probably tell you what was going on. You may even want to say just that, "Well, if there was no feeling for her, then why are all the messages gone? The phone can't be programmed to auto delete texts."
Depending on your service, you can block the phone number from texting his phone. You can also set up the number to be blocked from dialing in - however that may take you getting into his settings and blocking it. What I would suggest, though, is to have him do the blocking.
I let it go on with my now soon to be ex husband because he gave me this pity sob story about some gal at work who just wanted someone to talk to, her fiancee had cheated on her with her best friend a week before their wedding. I wasn't able to prove or disprove anything, and though I told him to never talk to her again, the calls and texts continued. But Surprise!! He wound up moving in with her in June and never told me!
Pounce this one fast. Don't let him pull a fast one on you like I did. Be strong and let him know that he is out of line. And stay your ground.
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