baz08

Hi all, well, why is it you only start to think about people in certain ways when they are no longer spoken for?.

I'm a 22 yr old guy, one of a bunch of new recruits started a new job about a year ago, and one of the girls i started with was on my team, at the time i was instantly attracted to her but we were both seeing people so i pushed that aside and we became great friends and talk about anything and everything, well my last relationship ended about 6 months ago and nothing changed as i was not looking for anyone else just yet, about 3 months ago my friend from work her relationship finished and i know what your thinking, but no i didnt go ah shes available lets dive in and make things weird!, as we are great friends but no longer working together but our friendship means a lot to me and its not something i want to lose, but recently i have been thinking about her in a different way and would like to ask her out, but i dont want to make things weird as i have two images in my head, (one is she thinks i'm a dateable guy and we go out which is a bit of a pipe dream from my personal experience in the past) the other is she thinks of me as a good friends and nothing more and then things are weird as she would most likely say no

really in a bit of a dillemma here so could use some advice from people who have been in a similar situation, or any advice at all would be helpful, thank you