For a while I felt like I was putting all of my hopes and efforts toward a future with my boyfriend (saving, planning, etc.), while he was still just leaving it up to fate. A guy friend recently reminded me- if a guy wants something, he will do what it takes to get/keep it. Conversely, guys seem to want us less when we are so available. Well, to me this means that I need to focus more on moving toward what I want, and if my boyfriend really wants to be with me, he will make it happen. It sounds like your fiance might be taking you for granted (too common!), and maybe it's time for you to charge on with your life.
The kids issue can be so difficult! It's hard enough to find a guy you'd like to have kids with- and then he doesn't want them until later down the road! It's almost like we're held captive as we wait for it. I'm 25 and want kids before 30, too, but I've decided to live my life and see where it takes me rather than trying to alter my path so it ends at my boyfriend's doorstep.
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