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**alicat** · 10-21-2009, 11:19 AM

I've been with 2 men in my entire 40+ years. Hubby #1 was my first and he was, let's just say not so exciting in the bedroom. Sex was always OK, but like vanilla ice cream ok. To top it all off, hubby #1 was not one that liked the idea that I was enjoying myself. I dont' really want to go into a lot of detail but one time I tried talking dirty to him and he stopped and slapped me. I don't need to be told what an idiot he was, I know that but therein lies my problem.

My new husband is all that and a bag of chips. He is the swirl icecream with every add-in imaginable, lol. He is wonderful in every way and I have no reason to believe he is unhappy with our sex life. However, I still carry some inhibitions from my past and would love to get past them. In the 3 years we've been married I've learned to talk a little bit dirty (lol) and we've got a drawer full of toys. Yes, oral is given and received often..that is not the problem. That said, I would LOVE to SURPRISE him one night! Any suggestions how a timid mouse can make her man roar like a lion?

10-21-2009, 11:19 AM	#1
alicat VIP Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 68	how to get past inhibitions I've been with 2 men in my entire 40+ years. Hubby #1 was my first and he was, let's just say not so exciting in the bedroom. Sex was always OK, but like vanilla ice cream ok. To top it all off, hubby #1 was not one that liked the idea that I was enjoying myself. I dont' really want to go into a lot of detail but one time I tried talking dirty to him and he stopped and slapped me. I don't need to be told what an idiot he was, I know that but therein lies my problem. My new husband is all that and a bag of chips. He is the swirl icecream with every add-in imaginable, lol. He is wonderful in every way and I have no reason to believe he is unhappy with our sex life. However, I still carry some inhibitions from my past and would love to get past them. In the 3 years we've been married I've learned to talk a little bit dirty (lol) and we've got a drawer full of toys. Yes, oral is given and received often..that is not the problem. That said, I would LOVE to SURPRISE him one night! Any suggestions how a timid mouse can make her man roar like a lion?