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kslp00 · 10-25-2009, 07:47 PM

My husband has a problem. The problem is that I'm going to leave him unless he starts to defend/support me to his family, primarily his father and stepmother.

I could be wrong or overreacting and I need objective advice. It all started when his father and stepmother came to visit us. We have four girls between us, one "his," two "mine," and one "ours." My 5 year old daughter confronted the stepmother about her smoking (she was doing it in their sight and I always took offense to smokers, and this passed to her). Stepmother was so offended, that she didn't even acknowledge "my" three children at Christmastime, but sent "his" daughter a present.

She, then, did not acknowledge "my" daughter's 3 year old birthday.

Against my better judgment, we visited at their house in July. Again, my eldest took offense at her smoking. (I told her not to say anything, but she is very, very headstrong.) After we left this family party, the stepmother made disparaging remarks about my daughter to all left, saying she had no respect. She never mentioned any of this to me, just to everyone around me.

She, then, proceeded to send "his" daughter a birthday PRESENT and "our" (one year old first birthday) a card only. Very impersonal and little effort.

All I have asked for is an apology. I want her to say, "Hey, I overreacted to a child's comment and I never should have said anything about her to other people. I will stop treating one daughter above the others, and treat them all fairly." My husband is a fence rider and will not support me. He says one thing to me and another to them. This has torn my marriage apart.

I feel he is not strong enough to protect myself and my children. He has lied and omitted information. He called me one day and said that his "father will be there by the end of the day," after I made it clear I'd like an apology. Please help me get through this or another marriage will end up a statistic.

10-25-2009, 07:47 PM	#1
kslp00 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: The Deep South, but Yankee by raise. (Pennsylvania) Posts: 9	Evil Stepmother My husband has a problem. The problem is that I'm going to leave him unless he starts to defend/support me to his family, primarily his father and stepmother. I could be wrong or overreacting and I need objective advice. It all started when his father and stepmother came to visit us. We have four girls between us, one "his," two "mine," and one "ours." My 5 year old daughter confronted the stepmother about her smoking (she was doing it in their sight and I always took offense to smokers, and this passed to her). Stepmother was so offended, that she didn't even acknowledge "my" three children at Christmastime, but sent "his" daughter a present. She, then, did not acknowledge "my" daughter's 3 year old birthday. Against my better judgment, we visited at their house in July. Again, my eldest took offense at her smoking. (I told her not to say anything, but she is very, very headstrong.) After we left this family party, the stepmother made disparaging remarks about my daughter to all left, saying she had no respect. She never mentioned any of this to me, just to everyone around me. She, then, proceeded to send "his" daughter a birthday PRESENT and "our" (one year old first birthday) a card only. Very impersonal and little effort. All I have asked for is an apology. I want her to say, "Hey, I overreacted to a child's comment and I never should have said anything about her to other people. I will stop treating one daughter above the others, and treat them all fairly." My husband is a fence rider and will not support me. He says one thing to me and another to them. This has torn my marriage apart. I feel he is not strong enough to protect myself and my children. He has lied and omitted information. He called me one day and said that his "father will be there by the end of the day," after I made it clear I'd like an apology. Please help me get through this or another marriage will end up a statistic.