Maybe you should just try to enjoy him for what he is NOW... his history made him that, but his history is just that. HISTORY. There is nothing that he or you can do about that, and I feel like you might be missing out on an otherwise good man because he doesn't like dwelling on his past. As long as you know that he was not some serial killer, or has a wife and kids in another town... I guess I don't see why needing his genetic background and family history needs to be a big deal right now.
After 4 months, he might be talking marriage, but from his actions he seems like he isn't comfortable enough to give you the intimate details that marriage requires. Maybe you just need to put the idea of spending the rest of your life with this man on the backburner and enjoy your time getting to know each other slowly and then crossing that bridge in the future when he does finally have that level of comfort with you. Afterall, you are still in the honeymoon stage - and who doesn't enjoy that time!?!
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Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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