When people live together....especially when their relationship isn't quite at the point where they need to, I think they often grow resentful of each other in the ways in which they're different. For instance, if he's an early riser and you're a late sleeper (neither one being right or wrong) if you all lived apart that would cause no problem, but because you live together he's in a sense resentful because "ugh she's lazily sleeping in while I do all the work!", and you're resentful because he's being inconsiderate and waking you. Jumping on your every word is a way of distracting the truth of what you've said. Is he an inconsiderate person? Probably not. Did he behave in an inconsiderate way when he decided to turn on lights and tv while you slept? Absolutely.
Does he go to bed before you? Do you parade through the bedroom at night when he's sleeping, turning on lights and tv?
I think you need to talk with him at a time when this isn't going on. It's as if he thinks he should be able to live his life in a way he would if you weren't there. The beauty of living alone is privacy, independence, the ability to get up at 5am and do laundry if you want to, the ability to sleep until 9 if you want to. But living together, this requires communication and compromise.
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