There will be times when you will feel a sense of
regret, almost a mourning. When this moment
becomes very poignant, you have to distract yourself.

You focus on something in your environment, it could
be a plant, an ornament, anything that is bland in
itself.

You stare at it, and tell yourself that you are not
going to think of him. You focus on an unpleasant
incident, then turn to do something else.

Each time he creeps into your mind, you turn to your
distractor.

Eventually you will find yourself almost automatically
looking at your distractor as you begin to think of
him, and automatically get the ugly replay, so that
the time you spend thinking of him becomes less and less.

Instead of feeling this wash of regret, and turning to
your distractor, fighting to get the negative event to
manifest, you instantly turn to the distractor before
the regret hits you, and feel the anger and resentment
for the negative event...all in a flash.

When this happens, you know you are free.