ok I have been with my boyfriend since I was sixteen (I'm now twenty). We have had our ups and downs like every couple. last year my dad retired from the military and moved to michigan I decided to stay where I'm at because I love my boyfriend and didnt wanna lose him. Well the moment i moved in the relationship started taking a spin and it got outta control to the point we were fighting non stop . Well in december we decided to go on break, and since i had no where else to go we still lived together. I went to visit my family for christmas and came home to find out he messed around with another gurl. It killed me I was shocked he was honest with me but it still hurt so bad. Because of this gurls age he got into some trouble, and I was there for him. I had to watch him go thru an obession stage with this gurl and it killed me and what killed me more is the fact she told me everything. Out of the blue she sent me a myspace message confessing all. I got pisted cuz he lied to me bout some parts. A couple of weeks went by and we decided to try to put it in our past and we decided to give it another try. Ever since that incedent my trust with him hasnt been a hundred percent I get scared when I see myspace messages from other gurls or when he talks to another gurl or when a gurl calls him. I'm scared of being hurt again. I'm trying to let go of the past but I just dont know how. I want to put it behind me and go on with my life how can I start to trust him again? how can I put all that behind me?