Hi,
I know I'm going to sound like a total psycho , but I really need some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and I love him so much. He says he loves me most days and is always really loving when we're together. However, I can't help but get suspicious about his female friends. My ex cheated on me and he was the last person I thought would ever cheat, so I guess now I've got someone I really love I've just convinced myself he'll find someone better than me and do the same thing...

A few months ago we were talking and he said he couldn't promise me he wouldn't kiss someone else if he was very very drunk because he'd never been in that situation before - so even though he hoped he wouldn't, he couldn't promise me 100%. I was personally quite shocked about that - but I don't know if I was overreacting a bit, knowing that really no one can be 100% sure what they'll do when very drunk...

Anyway now I find myself getting jealous if he meets with his female friends, if he gets texts from them and stuff. I know I sound like such a , I just can't help it.. I try and hide what I'm feeling like cos I know if it was the other way round I'd get really annoyed. I'm not like it with all his friends, there's just a few who seem quite flirty and are really pretty.

We've been at different unis since we started going out, so we're used to being away from eachother, but because of our courses we are going to be spending the next 2 years in different countries from eachother, seeing eachother every 3-4 weeks. I really do believe we can make it through this, but I've got to find a way to stop this jealousy thing. I know that my jealousy is far more likely to break us up than him running off with another girl.

Has anyone got any ideas about how I can stop being so and stop worrying so much?

Thanks