In searching for info on lack of sex drive during menopause, I came across this site and had to join. I have been fully menopausal since the age of 30 (now 40) ... my sex drive has gone from the OMG to OhNO stages regularly ... about every six months or so I either can't get enough or I just can't stand being touched .... right now I'm at the 0hN0 stage ..... under normal circumstances this really wouldnt bother me ... but theres nothing normal about my life right now .... I just got married 3 weeks ago to a wonderful man (10 years younger) ... we consumated marriage (of course) but since then .... its been a dry run ... this is a BIG problem for me right now ... he really thinks that he's done something or not doing something right or wrong ... he's worried and confused ... any ideas to help me help him to understand this???