My libido was pretty low and i hated it because it seemed like everyone else was just more sexual. I think both of your ideas works. I felt for awhile that i couldnt be to open because i didnt want to be perceived as a . I do now own a vibrator which is completely amazing and also allow my self to create a good imagination as well. hope this helps, but i know my libido is alot higher now than it was before.
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