I recently moved and, of course, when you move you get new neighbors. Well, my son has made friends with another boy who seems to be obsessed with him. Examples:

*He wants my son to come to his house every day to play computer/video games.

*He wants to come to our house every day to play games computer/video games (which we have limited to only on weekends for that reason).

*Whenever my son tells him he doesn't feel like playing, he tells him to go and ask us for permission anyway. I've even caught him trying to coach my son on what to say.

*He seems 'overly generous', and gives things to my son (a webkinz, mcdonalds, lets him borrow those video games). He offers to bring food items over from his house because he feels they are "sooo good and we have to try them". He even bought over videos for my husband to watch (I had told him before hand that Hubby already had the same videos). He said he wanted my husband to 'like him'.

*We limit the times during which our son can play but this boy will still come over after the curfew and ask if he can come in. We have learned to say no.

*Today, my son returned to elementary school and this boy has moved on to Middle School, so they now take different school buses.He phoned me and asked if he could go to the bus stop and meet my son for me! I told him it's his first day back at school and I'm his mom, so I'll go. Well, I go to meet him and the boy is there waiting! Says he just wanted to ask my son how his first day back at school was.

*Later, when I was picking up my younger daughter at the same bus stop, he runs out to tell me that his mom was still at work and his older sister was going out and could I let my son stay at his house for ten minutes until his mom comes home. I said no, but he could come over until his mom gets home.

*We have had to caution this kid about things he says in our home that we consider to be against our families beliefs (religious and otherwise).


My husband and I feel like we have to hide out whenever he rings the doorbell. I keep wondering if 'mothers intuition' is real. I know that I have to do what's in the best interest of my child. This is the first 'neighbor friend' that my son has had (he's very shy). I don't want to keep my son from having friends, but I have such wierd feelings about them hanging out together. I guess I'm ranting here, because the whole bus stop incident so bothered me. Is this how kids play? Does this sound normal?