tracy, i am right there with you. I have noticed since i was 27 that my sex drive was declining, i blew it off for a long time thinking it was because i was married and you know honestly after a while the spice is hard to find among everything else, anyway now one child later i am sick of it i agree wholeheartedly, it is not fair to either of us, i truly think mine is a hormone change, i use to not need lubricant and i have now for a long time and i know that is a hormone thing, i read that long use of birth control pills could lower your libido, i was on them for 8 yrs so... Anyway i am new to the area and i am looking for a ob/gyn if you know of any good ones but as soon as i do i am going to talk to them about it because its went on long enough.