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Old 09-28-2007, 07:42 AM
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Some tips before you leave. And you NEED to leave.

Find that pic that your bf drew and keep it safe. Document all threats. By this I mean write down everything that has happened in chronological order.

Gather up all of your important papers, fav. keepsake stuff, your daughters fav. stuff and bring them to a friends house for safe keeping without your boyfriend or your family knowing. This is important. They need to be in the dark about this for a little while.

Tell your boss that you are going to take some time off for a family emergency. Tell them not to give any information to your bf if he calls or stops by.

Call the phone company and tell them to turn off your phone. The same with the electric company. Call your landlord and tell him/her what is going on. That you have tried to get him to move and he wont'. That you fear for yourself and your childs safety.

Now leave. Go to a women's shelter. They will have advocates there that will help you. They can help you get a restraining order, which it sounds like you need. They can put you up in a safe house where nobody will know where you are. Don't tell anybody where it is either, because you could be jeopardizing the lives of the other women there.

If you don't know how to find a women's shelter, stop by a police station and ask. They will help you.

Don't wait. This is only going to escalate until somebody really gets hurt. Abuse is all about control and he controls you! It's time to do what's right for your daughter. You will be a lot stronger for this. You will also be able to be a better mother because you won't be living in fear or walking on egg shells.

Leave. Disappear. It's the only way to keep you and your child safe.

Advice from someone who's been there.

Last edited by free spirit; 09-28-2007 at 07:46 AM.. Reason: ****** spelling errors. ;)
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