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**JubesInquest** · #2 10-02-2007, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Nightelf

I am wondering if something changes when you get married. Something more than legal aspects. Can anyone tell me what they feel? I keep on being told that we shouldnt bother getting married if we are not going to have kids. But for me marriage is way more than that. I dont want children, that is a personal choice, but surely that isnt the only reason to get married?

For starters, do you LOVE the person you want to marry? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with them?

You don't have to want kids to get married.... your feelings can change about that-- you never know.

I've been married many years, and it's sooo funny: we were just friends, and when we first me, we didn't think too much about each other.
It's been more than 20 years, and to me, the most that changes (IMO) is that you grow older and you learn more and become more mature.

You learn each other... you learn what ticks a person off, what makes them happy; how they act when they feel bad; what to say or do to help them, or when to just give that person space. You learn as a couple and as individuals.
You learn the ways of your children after you have them.

To me, one of the most important things is that you BOTH make the decision to hang in there when things get tough (and they do get TOUGH); to be there for one another no matter what, and to love and show love to one another every day.