10-08-2007, 04:50 PM
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Don't think of it like that.
Go back to primary school.
Imagine you had a best friend, we'll call
her Anita.
You go up to Junior High, and a bunch of
'cool' girls invite you to a party, but not
Anita.
Now, do you take up with those 'cool' girls
and dump Anita? Or do you decline the
invite and spend that evening with Anita?
Depends, you might say on how important
Anita is to you.
If she's your really best friend, well then there's
no contest. You don't go. Maybe for 1 second
you imagine it, but the idea of trading Anita, with
whom you've shared your 'whole' life with these
new people, is just not on.
The same thing with a marriage.
Do you dump your wife who you have been with
all this time for these new people?
The idea of a whole different set of rule being
applied to marriage contra friendship has gotten
us into a kind of mess.
We forget the basic loyalty we have to our friends
when there's a sexual overtone, when the sexual
overtone should be no more important than 'cool'
is to the new girls.
I am loyal to my friends. In fact, in 99% of all
cases, they die. That is how our friendship 'ends'
although you'd be surprised how often, even after
years I will think, "I have to tell this to Lily!" forgetting.
It's the same thing with a marriage.
Sure you go and you see someone really nice
and then you go home. You don't jeopardise your
relationship over a 'whatif' 'maybe'
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