10-11-2007, 12:15 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: MI
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Originally Posted by Mourningman
This is my first post and I know its a womans site but I have been reading stuff for a couple of weeks so i signed up. Anyway my in laws live next door, we bought land from them at pretty much the going price at the time.At first it seemed like an ok idea, 10 years ago. But now with 2 kids, 13 and 9 whenever we as a family take a vacation they somehow find the time to go with us.Even thats not so bad but lately in the last 3 years it seems my wife is catering the their whims and not our own familys.my inlaws are in there mid 70's. So for me my question to anyone who would way in, should i feel let feeling like a second fiddle bother me or just deal with it?
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Wanna welcome you, Mourning!
I certainly understand your predicament! I don't think you're wrong in feeling the way you do.
Sometimes, parents have a way of imposing on their son or daughter's immediate family. Why don't her parents go on their own vacation? Did they want you 2 to live close by so that you can take care of them, without them having to give up their house and find (maybe) assisted-living facilities?
Does your wife have any brothers & sisters? Perhaps they need to check on their parents health. Could it be that the parents feel that they are getting up in age and they need someone to take care of them (hence, imposing on you, the wife and kids)?
Have you discussed how you feel with your wife? If not, it's a discussion that's long overdue.
Have a sit-down with her. Find out how she feels about her parents coming on vacation with you, when the vacation is really for you and your OWN family!
Tell her how you feel about living next door to them. Have you thought about moving?
You 2 have a lot to talk about. Don't let communication breakdown between you two. Discuss things!
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