10-16-2007, 12:20 PM
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Location: MI
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Originally Posted by NoraEU
Funny that I have to ask for an advice on one of the most important decisions in my life but I honestly need help. I am 33 yrs old living with a 24 year old for the past 18 months. He is a good person and good morals but he has done some things that make me wonder if I truly know this person. He has stolen $ from me when he did not have a job and lied about it. I forgave him (or I thought I did) but I just found out he has been looking at port and he lied about it again. I don’t like porn but I know men like it and I can live with that but this has re-open the wound. Do I know him and is he really a good person or a fake?
What concerns me is that he denies everything until I show him the proof, he is not honest when I first give them the opportunity, he denies and denies until he has no way out.
Unbeliveble but I still think he loves me.. silly me. We were planning on getting married and starting a family very soon but know I don’t know what to do.
Just by reading my e-mail I know the writing is all over the wall, but is that how it is? Are these the type of signs we should look at before things get out to proportion? Or am I just over-reacting and this is just the way life is?
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I just don't get it.
You mean to tell me you want to marry a 24-year-old man that hasn't grown up yet; is stealing from you and doing things behind your back?
You want to build a marriage based on this?
Where's the trust? Where's the "open-ness" Why steal from someone that loves you? And, if you "love" someone, why WOULD you steal from that person?
Now think: if he does this behind your back, what else will he do behind your back AFTER you're married?
He's showing how he is and how he WILL BE should you marry him... but looking at how he acts, he's not ready for marriage at all---he's not ready for a relationship, either.
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