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**JubesInquest** · #7 10-18-2007, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by CarolineWH

When a woman is lonely and looking for love, we will make everything wrong, everything right. She is looking for her Prince Charming. The one she dreamed about as a little girl. Getting older makes these dreams seem farther away and she makes excuses for his excuses. She finds that she accepts what she would not have accepted years ago and she grabs at these little pieces of heaven rather than to sit alone and dream about what she had and wonder if she should have let it go.

We can answer all these women and tell them how wrong that they are but most of us sit with the comfort of a lover and know the thrill of being wanted. If they continue this path that they are walking now they will probably be hurt. If they are able to walk away from where they are struggling to leave now, they know what will face them.

The perils of dating a younger man will always be there, just as the ambition and hunger of a unfulfilled and lonely older woman. This seems to be the thing nowadays. Do you walk and cry now or do you do it later. It seems to me that you have answered your own question to start.....

"We can answer all these women and tell them how wrong that they are but most of us sit with the comfort of a lover and know the thrill of being wanted."

Well guess what? We all weren't born that way!

We've obviously learned from some situation--- beit one's very own or of a close loved one or whatever.

#1 -- My mother taught her girls not to buy into that "Prince Charming/Snow White" thing. You don't hang your hopes on some man coming by on a white horse to carry you away from all your problems and live happily ever after.
Real life dictates that you get yourself a good education, become independent and do for yourself. That way, you're not hung up on what someone else does or does not do.

#2 -- Self-esteem: Gotta have it! If it's not built-up, it can be the cause of all kinds rash decisions being made that one otherwise would NOT make.
If "NoraEU" is really thinking that she can go ahead and make marriage a go with this 24-year-old man, then more power to her.
I wouldn't do it because the guy has already shown himself for what he really is to her.

It's all well and good to post a comment here, but if you don't want to know what others have to say or what their opinion is of what you've written, don't post it.
I will tell it like it T.I. is from my P.O.V. I've also seen this in a lot of other posters here.

We all know that you can throw out your suggestions and opinions; it doesn't mean that the poster of the question or situation is going to follow it--they don't have to.