OK ladies, I know sometimes it gets old hearing from us guys on a "womens board" but I thought there isnt any better source to go to but you "guys"......OK here is my situation......33 years old, 2nd marriage, to a 29 year old woman, her 1st marriage.....been together for 7 years, have 2 kids, 5 and 3..I have a daughter from my first wife but have a great relationship with the ex, so none of the typical ex drama....have struggled most of our relationship with issues such as money, jobs, career decisions and her health as she is bi-polar......for the last 3-4 years we have been more of roomates than husband/wife and obviously have had no intimacy whatsoever.....recently, we have both landed pretty good jobs and see the light from the money problems, but the damage has been done...recent talks with my wife has revealed that although she claims to love me deeply, she has no interest in intimacy, doesnt feel attracted to me, has no need for sex and believes this is just who she is now......we have talked about divorce and she feels, I believe that she might be happier w/o being attached or held accountable for working on this problem.....I mean, how do you fall in love with someone AGAIN after several years of going thru hardship with that person??????......How do I just wait and continue to stay in a relationship with only hope that she will somehow come back to me???...the thought of divorce is scary to say the least.....although I carry a lot of resentment towards my wife, I am able to hold it in and disolve it when times are going good and wonder why she cant do the same, after all, I havent cheated on her, done anything "major", she just says that over the years, she has resented me for small things, such as having a child with another woman, having to include her in our lives, not picking up after myself (which I am trying).....I guess the big question is how does a woman re-connect with their husband?...is therapy the only way of repairing such a relationship?....I wake up everyday, EVERYDAY and think of ways to show my wife how much I love her, but dont feel she gives anywhere close to the same effort, but she says she thinks about it all the time......I think she is open to trying to make it work, but I need ideas, things that have worked for other people, not just hope that a therapist, an hour a week will be able to help us out...anyone have any ideas?

Once again, sorry to unload on you ladies, I feel bad enough having to ask help .... as a guy, I want to fix it, but this isnt something I can just fix with a hammer and seems like I am having to force someone to love me.....makes me feel pittyful to say the least.

Thank you in advance,

Adam