10-22-2007, 02:25 PM
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Whoa....  what a situation!
"we have talked about divorce"
So what did she say, exactly?
"... she just says that over the years, she has resented me for small things, such as having a child with another woman, having to include her in our lives, not picking up after myself ... "
Ok, therapy is a good thing. Will she agree to it?
Your wife just told you that she is angry with you (or resents you) because you had a child with another woman and you have to include your child's mother into your lives.
I'd love to ask her what the h*ll was she thinking?
Didn't she know all this before you 2 got married? So why is she so resentful now? Why didn't she just turn your marriage proposal down when she saw that you had an ex with a child in your life?
She's basically jealous of you and your ex... and the child you have with her.
Jealousy is a very dangerous and poisonous thing. Once it sinks into the system, it's very hard to recover from. A lot of people don't recover from it.
She has to be willing to admit to her jealousy and insecurity. Always in the back of her mind, she's thinking you 2 are getting together and cheating on her--even though there's no proof and you haven't given her reason to think that way.
You're not kidding: your marriage has taken a rather hard hit.
Is she willing to mend and let go of those insecure and jealous ways? Will you be able to have a heart to make a go of the marriage?
If she's willing to go to counseling, then she's at least taken a step in the direction of healing this marriage---and also, is she on medication for that bi-polar disorder? She also needs to stay on that regularly.
Hopefully this will work out. 
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Last edited by JubesInquest; 10-22-2007 at 02:30 PM.
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