Yes, we have talked about seeing a therapist together, but initially she wanted to see one first..., thus her appointment this week actually....as far as the issue with me having another child, I dont think she has any issues about me and my ex together, but rather the fact that our family (me, her and our 2 sons) arent the perfect family in her mind as visitations and such as a hassle at times to schedule/coordinate......Her medication for her illnes has always been an issue until recently (last couple of months) as it appears to be on the right track, but I am left standing with all the memories of being the sole parent during the times of the "lows" and placing my resentment aside to offer a shoulder to cry and recoop on....which I have no problem with doing, but I have a problem with her not being able to do the same for me......I just cant phathom why my wife cant see the things that I have done and use this as motivation to let her guard down and the resentment pass......I know as a man, I have expectations that obviously she doesnt have....example...if it were myself that had the "distant, non-inlove" feelings for my wife and I TRULY wanted it to work out......I would force myself into looking at my wife for all the good she has done, all the good that she brings to our family and although I have resentment towards her, I want this to work out so I will make it a TOP PRIORITY to make her feel loved..........so why is that so hard to ask her to do the same?.....Is it that I want our marriage more than she does?...........Im not asking her to jump in the sack and "pretend" everything is ok, but should it be so difficult for her to want to show affection..........I will take some blame here as she does say that I always want more than she has to offer since she has NO drive at all....and I have what I think is a higher than normal drive so it does make it hard sometimes to deal with the denials....but I just dont think I am asking to much, I just want to see some effort put forth from her and she seems comfortable but says she is unhappy????.......what a mess.