first of all i think it is wrong to talk with your guy friend about your problems or what ever issues you guys discuss. you should beable to do that with your husband. my opionon is that you are talking with your guy friend about stuff is because your husband may lack the emtional part and the other guy gives you that emotional bonding, in which can cause problems, lets just say is like an emtional affair you are having, and than on the checking the phone cell issue, if it is your husband cells that you would like to check, you have no right he should be checking yours. the only reason you want to check his is if your guilty of something. the guilty always accuses. if you have conversation with your guy friend than why can your husband not have a emtional talk with another girl? hope that was not to forward.