The hardest thing is to be in a relationship and the other
person in it has a totally different view of it.

Just take it one day at a time. There is no rush. People
have to be ready for commitment. Some people get
ready at different times, and some might never get ready;
in relation to you or in general.

I think if I handed out paper and pencil and asked everyone
to list the times they were at point A and the other at
Point B, we'd be off line for at least an hour, because it's
one of those recurring nightmares.

So here's your choice; push and you'll push him right off
the relationship. Stay pat, and he'll be there next year.