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Originally Posted by giliwizzle
Ive been dating my best friend for 9 months now. When i got a dirvorce 3 years ago he was there for me and when he went through his 2 years ago i was there for him. I love him to death and.. well to be honest and throw it out there, i want to get married. More than anything i want to be married to this man. Hes the type though to take things one day at a time. Which makes it very hard to talk to him about future plans. So for awhile i avoided bringing it up, but finally i did. And all i hear is reasons to put it off. What should i do? i have trouble seeing the relationship going where i want it to sometimes. And even when its gonna be when im 50!
How can you tell your man you dont wanna date you want to marry when hes happy with where its at?
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Hi Giliwizzle,
I think that it admirable how the two of you have supported each other through your divorces. It is great at this time in your life, taking this relationship "one day at a time" however you may feel frustrated at times because you want to marry this man and he is not ready.
Do the two of you have children with your ex spouses? The reason I am asking, is suppose you do not have children and you want to marry this man and have children with him and suppose he is never ready, then realistically "all of his needs are met" and "your needs are not and may never be met!" If I were in your shoes and both of us already had children from our ex spouses, then I personally would feel comfortable just being in this relationship and taking it "one day at a time" however, if I did not have children and my biological clock was running out and I was getting older, I would say to myself "I'll give this relationship, one or perhaps two years, and if he does not ask me to marry him, then I would have to start dating again to fall in love and find "Mr. right" to marry and start a family with.
Gia