You have been together long enough that you should be able to sit down and tell him how much this is bothering you. He should seriously take that into concideration and do something about it. I had similar issues with my husband's mother. I finally couldn't take it anymore and told him he had to do something about it or things would get ugly. Suprisingly, he sat her down and told her like it is and there were immediate changes. Granted, she was very mad and upset at first, but it was worth it. Men can really be oblivious to the strain that their family puts on their women. You have to tell him very clearly and plain as day what is happening and how it is making you feel. He may get mad about it or not want to deal with it, but you will have to put your foot down on this. Things will only get worse if you don't. It also should not be your responsibillity to deal with this because it is HIS family. He needs to deal with it.