Sorry I didn't answer fully- she walked in. I love my daughter completely. If she weren't in the picture I'd be a divorced man!!!!!! I know that she shouldn't be exposed to adultery, fighting etc. I've never even argued in front of her. She has yelled at me, slammed doors, called me names in front of her- that concerns me. Our neighbors and her family has always thought she was perfect because I don't rip on her. I've found out that anything I've ever done she's told my sisters. They hate her and don't want to have anything to do with her now. They've offered to beat her up and they're NOT the type of girls to even offer that.
I hope, I hope, I hope she can change but kinda know better. I've heard of rare stories of people who did. I just want to know the signs if there are any of that happening. Whenever people divorce there are regrets of some kind or another.( I'm shivering as I write this-why???) I just want to make sure I do the right thing for my family. I worry about my daughter because I know my wife is all about her (more than she ever was about me) and in my home state the wife always gets the kids and the house. My lawyer even told me that. Two of them I consulted with. I want to be a daily part of my daughters life. I can see her being raised by the TV, daycare, bad men, etc if she inevitably gets custody. I have an email from him admitting oral sex and an apology. I'm handsome, but I'm also big enough to really mess this guy up if I chose too. I requested an admission of what happened and a written apology from him- he even gave it on time. I also told him not to respond to communication from her. I emailed him from her email address and he replied. I still didn't tell his wife- that was part of our deal. This guy is SUCH A SMOOTH TALKER! I've talked to him when I was crushed and he said all the right things ie. it's not your fault, you don't deserve this, I'm SO sorry, my wife and kids will only be hurt if they find out- I just want to make it up to them for the rest of my life etc. My mother in law who I respect and adore advised me not to tell HIS wife what happened.