11-03-2007, 05:42 PM
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People deal with adultery differently based on their personal
situations.
I'll give you an example.
Professional is very busy, very caught up in life outside of
the home. In fact, the home is a place to bathe, change
clothing and sleep. The relationship between Prof. and
spouse is very minor in the scheme of things. Hence, if
spouse has an affair it's as important as the dog having
puppies.
Professional doesn't divorce spouse because;
a) hasn't met anyone preferred
b) intertia
Now this is a totally different scenario than you are
facing. Hence advice from Prof. is not in your best interest.
The big deal of 'divorce' where it was 'bad' for children
has been overturned.
All studies have found that the only problem is where
the child blames him or herself for the divorce.
Once the child does not have this guilt, divorce is
better.
You don't want to believe that your wife is continuing
to be unfaithful and will be unfaithful.
You will never get the truth from her or the guy.
What do they owe you to tell you their truth?
They tell you what you want to hear, how to get over.
I can think of a situation very much like yours.
When their son was about eighteen the 'father' found
out, he wasn't.
He had believed the wife's affair began when the
child was five, because he didn't catch his wife until
the child was five. But the affair went on before
the honeymoon, after the honey moon and continued.
He never caught her after because she became more careful.
When they divorced it was remarkable how many men
she had slept with during the marriage...
(she was very angry about him getting a particular
asset and to hurt him, went through her litany.
He wanted to dismiss it, oh no, she's just saying
this to hurt me, but subsequent information proved
that this was a woman who enjoyed sex with lots of
different men. She liked the 'James Bond' aspect
of cheating.
To make it even more poignant, a client of mine
(I'm a lawyer) was divorcing his wife to marry
Slutina. I practically got on my knees to beg
him not to, but his mind was made up.
A few years after they were married he wanted a
divorce.
When Courtney Walsh took the 500th wicket his
man's wife 'rewarded him' and told everyone
about it. She was so proud to have gone to bed
with Courtney Walsh!
The fact she was married and living with my client
at the time had nothing to do with this. She
couldn't see the connection, or why her husband
was angry.
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