I have a strong support base of family here where we live. I also have a daughter who I intend to be a father to with or without Toadess in the picture. If I "disappear" are you saying not to take or give visitation? I can't bring myself to do that. My wife's a cheat, and is sure hard to be married too, but I'd still be giving her visitation if I got custody. I know she "loves" my daughter. As far as she understands love to be anyway. I think she's slow to do the right things etc. I just don't think I understand what you're saying exactly. I LOVE the idea of doing the peace corps for a year though? I did serve a volunteer mission in India for eight months and totally loved it- loved the people etc. I don't know, what did you have in mind specifically. Thanks