Originally Posted by Gia

Comment to Poudrier2083:

My soon to be ex-husband used the Porn every day for years, he had absolutely no more energy for sex, romance and passion with me, he was too tired from masturbating to porn, he did not and would not attend family functions, museum's, family days with our children, I always felt like a "single mother" being married to him and his continued use of "porn" cutting me off from sex.( I am an attractive 30 something mother and successful career woman) Why would a man want to masturbate to those PORN women (many are Drag Queens) and many Porn women are infested with AIDS and Herpes. Why would a man want that versus the love, sex, attention from the wife who loves him. As Dr. Phil stated on his program one day, I don't recall his exact words, but it was something like: The dark, dreary world of Porn needs to be stopped. It will destroy wife's lives, marriages, childrens lives etc.My teenagers have no more respect for their father (their choice).The men who engage in the Porn need to own up to it and STOP it!" also Dr. Phil's words.

Couples therapy did not work for us, the psychologists did not work.

I decided to terminate our relationship and focus on myself (completing my Ph.D dissertation),focus on my children and date other men. A woman who focuses on her husband's PORN addiction becomes obsessed with his problem (it is his problem and not yours.) You can not rescue these men nor change them, they will always love the porn more than the wives. These wives condition themselves to become co dependents. Who the Heck needs this, not me!!!I no longer focus on my husband's PORN addiction, I filed for divorce so that my children and I can finally move forward. His Porn addiction destroyed my self value and it took me a great deal of time to finally feel great about myself again. Spouses are supposed to support each other, not intentionally and pre-meditatively hurt them. Read my other posts and threads, it will give you an idea as to what his PORN addiction has done to our marriage, our children etc...I will tolerate it no more!