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**Franny&Zooey** · 11-15-2007, 09:51 PM

I've only been dating the same man for 19 months now, and although we talk about and plan on getting married, we aren't as of right now. I can honestly tell you that after only about eleven months, my sex drive went way down. The relationship was still very new and so was sex, being that I was a virgin before dating him. After going through about a month of what you described- him advancing, me refusing - he stopped advancing. Everything was fine for about a week, then I really wanted him more, simply because he didn't tell me that he wanted me. Since then, instead of having intercourse at least once every day, or more, we space it out better. Although it's not just once or twice a month, more like twelve times a month. We try to make every time different. Different places, positions, the order of things, etc. I can't imagine what to do in your situation, but I can say that I am proof of this female tendency. I'll get back to you after we actually get married, and let you know if it's gotten worse.

11-15-2007, 09:51 PM	#4
Franny&Zooey VIP Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Atlanta, GA, USA Posts: 74	I'll get back to you... I've only been dating the same man for 19 months now, and although we talk about and plan on getting married, we aren't as of right now. I can honestly tell you that after only about eleven months, my sex drive went way down. The relationship was still very new and so was sex, being that I was a virgin before dating him. After going through about a month of what you described- him advancing, me refusing - he stopped advancing. Everything was fine for about a week, then I really wanted him more, simply because he didn't tell me that he wanted me. Since then, instead of having intercourse at least once every day, or more, we space it out better. Although it's not just once or twice a month, more like twelve times a month. We try to make every time different. Different places, positions, the order of things, etc. I can't imagine what to do in your situation, but I can say that I am proof of this female tendency. I'll get back to you after we actually get married, and let you know if it's gotten worse.