12-19-2007, 12:35 PM
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I think that her hormones are making her feel "sluggish" and she doesn't have the energy to "wash" herself like she should. Now that doesn't mean she shouldn't make every effort to keep herself clean...
But hormones, especially about the time a young adult female is due her first cycle, can really wear her down.
I'm a bit confused ... how can you want your hair & nails done and have "frilly" things when you generate an odor ... ?? It doesn't go together.
Have you flat out told her that her hygiene is poor? Have you told her the effects of poor hygiene? Sit her down -- just YOU, Mom --- and let her know how you kept your room clean (it will be easier to keep clean if you put things up as you go rather than piling up stuff THEN trying to clean up a mob of stuff); how you took regular, daily baths (or showers if she prefers) -- does she have a lot of hair under the arms? Perhaps you can show her how to shave that excess hair. You know excess hair holds odor, so if she can clear that away, her deodorant will be more effective.
Someone was right when they said kids "won't mince words" when it comes to body odors---especially on females!
I've gone into school and smelled all kinds of odors from little kids! You have to tell kids at a young age about hygiene and body odor.
Just talk to her and show her what she needs to do (I really feel for you. You sound like you're at your wits-end with this!) I think she'll catch on to what you're saying to her.
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