With you telling her she stinks, nasty, theres something wrong with her.. Her home should be a safe place to be not one of ridicule and resentment. For this mother to watch her daughter take a shower, brush teeth and have this girl watch her mother wipe herself is crossing the line of boundries. This mother needs to know her daughter is turning into a woman and she needs her privacy and love.. She should not feel ashamed about turning into a woman this is a delicate time for both boys and girls and it sounds like this mother is not being sensitive enough and may mess this kid up...