Oh your soon to be mother-in-law sounds JUST LIKE my mother-in-law!! This may be long but I know what you are going through, I have delt with the same **** for 3 years now....

I am sorry to say but if she is anything like mine....it only gets worse. I got a size small pj's for xmas and I am a size 12 so if you want to trade just let me know!! I know exactly how you feel. I feel so bad for my husband when drama hits cause he is stuck right in the middle. One thing I have learned though and I will share this with you and please take it....Don't ever make him decide between you and his mom...he will only end up mad at you and it could ruin your relationship with your soon to be husband. I know this cause I told my husband (out of anger) that either he was going to make her happy or he was going to make me happy. His reply was why can't I just make both of you happy? So I told him that she would not be happy till we got a divorce and if he wanted to make her happy then we could just end it before we had kids. A couple of weeks later we were filling out the papers!! The next day when we were going to go sign them he changed his mind and we tried counseling....WE WEREN'T THE ONES WHO NEEDED THE COUNSELING.....IT WAS HER!!! But anyway...just don't make him choose. He sounds like he knows she is crazy and wants it ALL to be about her, so that is good. He will get to where if she cannot be good to you then he won't be good to her. GIRL....I HAVE LEARNED THAT IF THE IN-LAWS WANT SOME RESPECT THEN THEY NEED TO GIVE RESPECT TOO....SO TREAT OTHERS AS THEY TREAT YOU. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and have a 7 month old son, plus two packets of divorce papers filled out but never signed. After we had our son I told my husband the only way out now was if we killed each other....that hasn't happend yet!! We moved 200 miles away from his family so we could work on our marriage. When you get married you will find that if you love that person enough that they are worth fighting for than you will do everything in your power to keep you two together and your husband will learn that too, it just takes guys longer to realize what they need to do. One more thing I want to tell you though....DO NOT HAVE ANY KIDS TILL YOU KNOW THAT IT IS GOING TO WORK OUT BETWEEN YOU ALL. I know that you are marrying your man and not his family but some people just think that if you marry their son then you are marrying them too. It is so much harder when you have a kid. Let me know if I can be of anymore help....