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Originally Posted by LadyLane
Well, first off let's thank god you aren't my child.
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Aw, would I be that much of a dissapointment?
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Originally Posted by LadyLane
Secondly, I am IN CHARGE. It is MY HOUSE. I decide what's best for her until she can decide for herself...
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And that's exactly why you don't talk to your parents about stuff, as they are a figure of power not friendship, which is exactly the point I made in the first place. After saying that'd never be the same with you, you've reinforced that fact even by shouting (captials).
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Originally Posted by LadyLane
See how you're on this forum with a nick that suggests you're a woman, when actually you're a man? I want to know, when my daughter is on the computer, who she is talking to and about what. I have no delusions that she will be approached by men purporting to be young boys or girls in order to befriend her and gain her trust. When it comes to my child, I can't trust anyone I don't know. Simple as that.
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You shouldn't really be allowing your child on the internet AT ALL until you've taught them how to get on in life.
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Originally Posted by LadyLane
I don't care who was told to screw off on this blog and for what reason. Do you know that a 13 year old girl killed herself because her neighbor's mother put up a fake profile on MySpace, pretending to be a cute teenage boy, who the 13-y.o. girl then had an online romance with... and the mother, acting as the boy, told her she was better off dead, that the world was a better place without her disgusting, ugly face? So she hanged herself. It's not her parents fault... but neither the child nor her parents knew who she was talking to, and about what.
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I did indeed know about this event, and I've discussed it elsewhere (the legality of it). A known depressive (and suicidal) 13 year old girl SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN ON THE INTERNET. The internet is a dangerous place, where the impressionable can suffer greatly. Her mum should've known that. So whilst I might be seeming to concur with you that control is needed (ie that it's plain idiotic to allow a young child online - without RIGEROUS safeguards), once someone reaches a sensible age, where they can think for themselves, 15 or so, if you are CAUGHT spying on your children, you will lose whatever trust you had.
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Originally Posted by LadyLane
If you're a parent, I say good luck to your kids. My job is to make sure my girls survives and thrives. Not to make sure I am the coolest mom on the block and for my daughter to think I'm her BFF.
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Thanks. I think I'll know what's best for my future children, and I will act for their best, just like any other parent. However, teaching a child to live in a cage and to make your decisions rather than their own wouldn't be my preffered way to do things. And your complete 180 is rather suprising - first you say that you're offended that your child might not approach you with a problem, then you basically outline how tyranical you would be.